The reveal

My husband and I are seeing a relationship counsellor to try to salvage our marriage and get it back on track. Tonight, after seeing us individually, she will share the thoughts and feelings that simmer behind our negative interactions. Once in the open, we can start to overcome our uncommunicative behaviour patterns, I guess. I'm feeling a mix of curiosity and nervousness about the process. I was interested to learn in my session with her yesterday that I feel stifled and voiceless when an issue arises which my husband disagrees with (or that I think he will). I wonder how he's feeling during our conflicts and when I shut down and walk away. I am ready, now though, to claim my voice and be who I know I am, but even so there's a little voice in the back of my mind warning me: 'what if I hurt his feelings with something I say...' and 'what if I say something dumb/illogical that can be ridiculed...'. I'll have to risk that, and the gain to myself and our relationship will be worth it.